Is it too early to say that 2017 has already taught me lessons right from the start? Here is a little personal article to start my year…
5 Things 2017 Has Already Taught Me During My Travels
Listen to the truth when it’s not spoken – We are all governed by 2 instincts: desire and the need to avoid loss or pain. They are both intertwined and both equally satisfying and painful at the same time. The need to want to succeed or have something to hold on to so badly that you are afraid of letting go. It is almost as if the rest of the world disappears. The problem starts when you build so much of it in your head, you are left with disappointments when you come face to face with it. You mourn the loss of the idea that you desired or once believed in. In the end, we need to learn to hold on to only the real things (or people) that deserves your full attention and interaction not only when they are available, but also when they are not. The little silence in between…That is the truth when it is not spoken. Learn to listen to it very carefully because it may just give you all the answers.
If you have to force it, leave it alone, not everyone you lose is a loss. But unforced bonds… those you hold on to.
Hold on to the one that needs you – Best friends and soul mates are two different things but both hold such an important role in our lives. I never believed in having just one soul mate, it’s a suffering word that has been used so many times. I have had few wonderful people in my life that come and go and some, stayed and inspired me to move further than my ability of greatness. I also had couple of best friends through my childhood and maybe found soul friends along the way, some come and some go.
I’ve learned the difference between a person who needs you and a person who wants you (and no, not in a romantic way). One that gives attention when it’s convenient to do so by mood and availability and one that is there for you because this person wants to be and wants to be sure you are safe and happy, regardless of whether its convenient or not.
Sometimes, humans build each other up in their heads for the longest time and it’s not real… and that’s ok as long as you realize it and let go of it…
We are all guilty of that.
Let go of those who just wants you, those who keep the conversations to a minimum, only because you serve a purpose. Hold on to the people who need you, those kind of friendships that will do anything to keep you and is interested in every thing about you, regardless how mysterious you are. Mental connection is deeper than physical attraction and just like you cannot force chemistry to happen, you cannot prevent it when it does.
Give yourself permission to be human – If it’s not time for you to get up, then its not time.
You do not have to control everything and you are not a robot. Motivation comes from love and being loved in return, if today, you do not feel this, then give yourself permission to be human. Pinterest quotes and words are sometimes all they are…just words. There are countless times I wanted to give up and walk away. There were countless moments I almost did. The start of 2017 had me going through a lot of changes, as every year, and that is how my growth has been.
Celebrate friendships – The older you get, the harder it is to find love in friendships. Simply because, we acquired more wisdom and experience to be picky and to chose wisely. The more intelligent we become, the harder it is for us to accept any kind of magic!
We slowly start to learn that love needs to be felt consciously even in the best friendships. The more independent we are, the less likely we keep useless friendships or lovers in our lives because simply put, we know what we want.
So today, I celebrate the friends I have brought in with me to 2017, who fought hard to stay in my life despite me not always being physically near them due to the nature of my business, but I promise this year will be different, and, letting go of those people who mistook my kindness to weakness, those who took my friendship to their advantage and for granted, no matter how difficult it is for me to say goodbye.
I’ll leave you with this for the New Year: Never push a loyal person to the point where they no longer care.
Travel for a purpose – 2017, you will see more adventure and much more improvements in the ways TJD will bring you travel! Working with NGO programs has always been in my repertoire but this time, I will help and guide you in ways in which you can help others and travel to serve and help others. 2017 will bring more nature, conservation and awareness and I for one cannot wait for you to join me!
Travel with TJD – A growth in our trips. A focus to something beyond my wildest dreams. Creating a reality of mine and hoping to add a little magic to those around me when they find their way to me. I’m excited to see the future of TJD. I’m excited to keep growing this segment and one day, TJD would be the pioneer of certain adventures.