Is it too early to say that 2017 has already taught me lessons right from the start?
I’ve already taken my first trips of the year for 2017 and it is to my first love, the city of London, right after Amsterdam for the New Year.
London is a place where everything first made sense once upon a time and it was always a city I found my answers in.
It gave me inspiration to start Travel Junkie Diary 3 years ago. I know my good friends who are reading this are smiling right now knowing exactly what I am talking about especially on how we were coming up with the name Travel Junkie Diary.
So It made sense that at the beginning of the year, going there for direction was a perfect place to start.
Here is a little personal article to start my year and if you enjoy reading it, feel free to click share below!
5 Things 2017 Has Already Taught Me During My Travels
Listen to the truth when it’s not spoken – We are all governed by 2 instincts: desire and the need to avoid loss or pain. They are both intertwined and both equally satisfying and painful at the same time. The need to want to succeed or have something to hold on to so badly that you are afraid of letting go. It is almost as if the rest of the world disappears. The problem starts when you build so much of it in your head, you are left with disappointments when you come face to face with it. You mourn the loss of the idea that you desired or once believed in. It tips into the direction of letting go. The truth speaks when the attention is given only when it’s convenient. In the end, we need to learn to hold on to only the real things or people that deserves your full attention and interaction not only when they are available, but also when they are not. The little silence in between…That is the truth when it is not spoken. Learn to listen to it very carefully because it may just give you all the answers. If you have to force it, leave it alone, not everyone you lose is a loss.
Hold on to the one that needs you – Best friends and soul mates are two different things but both hold such an important role in our lives. I never believed in having just one soul mate, it’s a suffering word that has been used so many times. I have had few wonderful people in my life that come and go and some, stayed and inspired me to move further than my ability of greatness. I also had couple of best friends but just like soulmates some come and some go. I also am guilty of forging (or making believe) a best friend or a soul mate.
A couple of days into 2017 and I learned the difference between a person who needs you and a person who wants you (and no, not in a romantic way). One that gives attention when it’s convenient to do so by mood and availability and one that is there for you because this person wants to be and wants to be sure you are safe and happy, regardless of whether its convenient or not.
Sometimes, you build a person up in your head for the longest time and it’s not real… and that’s ok as long as you realize it.
We are all guilty of that.
Let go of those who just wants you, those who keep the conversations to a minimum, only because you serve a purpose. Hold on to the people who need you, those kind of friendships that will do anything to keep you and is interested in every thing about you, regardless how mysterious you are. Mental connection is deeper than physical attraction and just like you cannot force chemistry to happen, you cannot prevent it when it does.
Give yourself permission to be human – If it’s not time for you to get up, then its not time.
You do not have to control everything and you are not a robot. Motivation comes from love and being loved in return, if today, you do not feel this, then give yourself permission to be human. Pinterest quotes and words are sometimes all they are…just words. There are countless times I wanted to give up and walk away. There were countless moments I almost did. The start of 2017 had me going through a lot of changes so for now all we can do is accept and wait.
Celebrate friendships – The older you get, the harder it is to find love in friendships. Simply because, we acquired more wisdom and experience to be picky and to chose wisely. The more intelligent we become, the harder it is for us to accept any kind of magic! We slowly start to learn that love needs to be felt consciously. The more independent we are, the less likely we keep useless friendships or lovers in our lives because simply put, we know what we want.
So today, I celebrate the friends I have brought in with me to 2017, who fought hard to stay in my life despite me not always being physically near them due to the nature of my business, but I promise this year will be different, and, letting go of those people who mistook my kindness to weakness, those who took my friendship to their advantage and for granted, no matter how difficult it is for me to say goodbye.
Never push a loyal person to the point where they no longer care.
Travel for a purpose – 2017, you will see more adventure and much more improvements in the ways TJD will bring you travel! Working with NGO programs has always been in my repertoire but this time, I will help and guide you in ways in which you can help others and travel to serve and help others. 2017 will bring more nature, conservation and awareness and I for one cannot wait for you to join me!
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