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Learning to love yourself: The 10 things you learn from running your own business

Wednesday, September 30, 2015
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Lessons learned through heartache and heartbreak are priceless

I was lucky enough to have one best friend though throughout my teenage life and two growing up today. I was always the social one and that will never change, but I always learn my lessons through (like many of us), heartaches and mistakes.

My biggest problem was differentiating business with friendships. It was almost impossible not to turn a good business relationship into a great friendship. That’s because it’s personal- to me at least. My business was always a huge part of my life and when good business etiquette is conducted, I appreciate the gestures and the people behind those gestures… meaning I turn them into friendships

I also have a history of taking decisions too quickly sometimes when I get excited… I’ve fallen in love more times than I can count, mostly with my work, ideas and even people. In my line of work, expectations are all that matters. Clients expecting me to deliver, friends expecting me to help, articles expected to be published on a deadline. Expectations is what I work on. So how difficult is it to maintain true friendships when mixing it with business? My business model is based on return on investments: you give a lot and you receive a lot. So when that is not matched, problems tend to occur.

Then you must make a decision that you are going to move on. It won’t happen automatically. You will have to rise up and say, “I don’t care how hard this is, I don’t care how disappointed I am, I’m not going to let this get the best of me. I have to keep growing, personally and professionally ”, when they let you down, shifting from where you’ve carefully placed them, it shakes your faith, right where you stand.

But, the best part of it all? We learn. Even if some won’t understand your business.

Love,

Travel Junkie Diary


 

 

Learning to love yourself:

The 10 things you learn from running your own business

Don’t depend on others The most important thing I learned is never to rely completely on others. This has been one of the greatest lessons of my life. You can trust your closest friends but when you want to get a job done, you need to rely on yourself. Not everyone has the same goals or is as forward thinking as you. If all fails you can always rely on yourself.

Learning to let go Sometimes, saying goodbye to people that harm you in your life is almost as difficult as making new friends and new business colleagues. Learn to let go and just accept the fact that what is meant to be will be. It’s a mantra that holds true.

What are you waiting for? Stop waiting and go and get it! Chase your dream or grab it by the balls and do everything you want to do with it. Develop your own business model and achieve your goals by learning from others- I did, and I am happy and proud to say it worked for me.

No more thinking out loud, just do it You will never know how it will turn out until you test it. Trial and error is a really valuable entrepreneurial tool- what isn’t working smoothly can be modified to flow better. What is working well can be expanded upon.

Love your differences, accept them and trust yourself Being different is special. Trusting your instincts is special. Stand out by being yourself and being different. Learn how to find a whole new way of making your business appealing and fun!

Your work is personal There are so many times people have told me not to take things with work personally. But my time is personal, my work is personal, my investment in my business IS personal. Otherwise, it wouldn’t be me. If your world crashes around you, so does your business. So the moral of the story is: fight for your happiness because your work is indeed personal.

Take in compliments It was always hard to believe that someone reads my articles. I didn’t graduate as a writer, but I do have my marketing degree and I used that combined with my hospitality background and my passion and experience for travel into a one-of-a-kind platform for those with wanderlust. I was never sure of the outcome, but receiving compliments on a daily basis and seeing how people react to my vision and new destinations, made me learn to accept that this is actually a great concept.

Protect your heart: your intellectual property There are business secrets that everyone wants to know. Protect them like it’s your heart. The day you don’t, people can steal your heart.

Surround yourself with people you trust It’s very tricky. Most days you can feel like you might not have a friend in the world and other days will feel totally the opposite. Surround yourself with people you trust and choose wisely- go with your gut instinct. (I have seen firsthand that it is almost never wrong.)

Establish GREAT business relationships Healthy relationships are the best; those based on trust and full support. It is not necessarily true that if you give that you will receive. Learn to keep ALL of your relationships purely business so nothing can get in the way. Maintain healthy business relationships because your reputation is your credibility.

 

 

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17 comments

  1. Anna says:

    Michelle, Thank you for this words, lots of us go through the same. Your business colleague and also friend, Anna from Barcelona 🙂

  2. Sarah says:

    Beautiful article, I can relate to the part of relying on myself , Ive always done that, trust and letting go of people who are negative too has been a huge part of my life, we only learn from our mistakes, that is so true.

    Sarah

  3. liveloudgirl says:

    Love it. Very inspiring! You live and you learn. Important to listen to your heart! And you do. X

  4. Gertrud says:

    This is so beautiful.

  5. Zeina Malek says:

    Beautiful article, so inspiring and so much u!

  6. Food She Blogged says:

    “Lessons learned through heartache and heartbreak are priceless”
    I agree wholeheartedly and its these lessons itself that make us stronger than yesterday.

    Beautifully written piece!

    -Judy

  7. Tarek Khassab says:

    Like you, I couldn’t and still can’t separate business with friendships. Sometimes it’s a great thing like you said, but I envy those who can draw that line, and almost have no heart.

  8. Samia says:

    Very well opened up! Beautiful article! Your biggest fan!

  9. Eliane T says:

    You connect with so many people in so many different levels. You are raw. You are open. You are transparent. You are not afraid of who you are even when you know you are not perfect just like everyone else. The difference with you is that you are growing and sharing it with us. Your mistakes and triumphs. You are personal and yet you draw the line when you need to. Keep up the great work. You have inspired so many of us.

    Eliane

    • Travel Junkie Diary says:

      Eliane,
      I really don’t know how to react to this, but as the article say, learning to love yourself and by accepting compliments like this one is part of growing too. At least for me. Thank you with all my heart and soul for that message. You are really something!
      x

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