I’ve always been an adventurer. One to never stay in the same place or moment for long. Ever since I was young I was fascinated by different cultures and ways of life. I was extremely lucky to be able to go on holidays to various places, giving me my first introduction to different cultures, So when the opportunity arose to move to the other side of the world, I packed up and left four weeks later. Having always lived in the U.K, I was excited and nervous of how I would feel and what the outcome of this move would be.
Turns out it was one of the best decisions I have made and here is what it thought me.
By Hayley Vincent – Instagram
YOU LEARN YOU WHO TRUE LOVED ONES ARE
A main concern of mine when making the big move away was loosing contact with those close to me and potentially loosing friendships. I wasted a lot of my energy worrying about this and when I look back now I realise how ridiculous this thought was. Obviously I didnt speak to my friends much as life takes over and with time difference it did prove difficult but since my return I have learnt that the ones that really care and love you will be there for you regardless of how long you’ve gone without speaking, They will just be happy that you are doing whats best for you and they will be there when you need them.
YOU WILL LEARN TO ALWAYS SAY ‘YES’
We as humans love to stick to our comfort zones and stay with what and where we know. In doing this we miss out on so many experiences and it restricts your ability to have a good time! Its so important to say yes to every opportunity given to you. Whether it be a small walk to national park, a road trip or even an invitation to a bar. Agreeing to these and pushing yourself out of your comfort zone will give you a feeling of freedom and you’ll find yourself with a new bunch of friends and maybe even a new hobby. When away I said yes to as many things as possible, a few weeks after arriving I was asked to go on a road trip to a coastal area. I only knew 1 of the 7 people going so as expected I was very nervous but I am so glad I went as I made friends with everyone, found a new secret location which I visited multiple times and even learnt how to surf!
ITS ‘OK’ TO FEEL LONELY
How many times have you been sat awaiting an invite from someone to occupy your day with an agonising feeling of loneliness? For me it happened a few more times than id like to admit. Since moving to a country where I hardly knew anyone this feeling started to become that little bit more familiar. Having experienced this a lot more than anticipated I decided to embrace the feeling of being lonely. Soon I started enjoying being on my own. A very difficult task to begin with. It gave me time and space to listen to myself and discover what my own likes and interests are without the influence of others. I spent many of my days going for walks and hikes up mountains on my own which really helped in clearing my mind, giving me different outlook on life. This time alone taught me its fine to be lonely. Start by sitting in a restaurant and have dinner by yourself. It may feel uncomfortable and silly at first but soon you’ll learn to love yourself and your own company.
YOU LEARN WHAT’S IMPORTANT
I have never been and never will be a materialistic person but like everyone I do like to treat myself every now and then. Whether it be a shopping spree or getting my hair done, however my time away with limited funds for what I wanted to see and do meant I had to be very selective with what I spent my time and money on doing. There were many times I had to eat cheaply to have more money on the things I now deemed more important which was seeing the country I was living in as best as possible and doing all the exciting things I’ve always wanted to do such as a skydive over Queenstown! Along with managing my money I also realised that every hour in the day is precious, get up early to experience a magical sunrise watching the sun announce a new day, stay up late to chill with new friends made.
Whatever it is be sure to take advantage of every hour given to you. You’ll soon regret it if you don’t!
YOU WILL ALWAYS HAVE YOUR FUTURE IN MIND
Whether you’re living life on the road or in your home town doing a 9-5 we sometimes fall into the trap of living life day by day. Enjoying whats in the present, never really thinking about the future. I know myself that I had never really had a future plan which was always a big worry for me. Since returning from New Zealand back to my home town London I have realised how I could have utilised my time out there more in a sense of setting myself goals. I didn’t set myself up or have anything to fall back on when I landed back to reality and this is probably one of the most valuable thing I have learnt. I am now a strong believer in always having something to work towards, set yourself goals and set time limits with these. This will ensure you actively push towards them and everything you do will be aiming for those goals. This will avoid the thought process of ‘where will I be in 5 years time.’ If you have your future and goals in the forefront of your mind you’ll always be heading in the right direction.